Adolescence is the period between 13 to 19 years. It can also be considered as a transitional period from childhood to Adulthood. It is a period of physical and psychological development from puberty to maturity. During this period, male children seem to be a bit difficult to deal with as a result of which many parents loose interest in them and ultimately loose intimate relationship with their sons. The following are some of the things you need to do to bring your adolescent son close to you:
Create interaction. When you find your son being difficult and unreasonable, book an appointment with him, let's say to a Football Pitch. I know he will like such place. Advice him like a parent and talk to him like a friend. Let him know that he will eventually be a parent, will he be happy if his children behave the way he is doing. Tell him that his behavior is not acceptable to you and the family and make him promise you to be a good person from now on.
Act like a real adult. Remember that he is still a child and you are the grown up. Make sure you have what it takes to solve his problems. When you give orders and he tries to disagree with you, do not engage in argument with him; rather device a way to make him abide by your rules. It is true that he has his own rights and privileges, do not allow your son to look down on you. So you need to show good examples and try to do what you say. Be in charge of your house, do not be a push over and spell out the punishment for those who flout your orders. Let him understand that you are not being wicked but trying to make him a better person. You will be surprised he will start loving your life style and copying it. He will hold you in high esteem as a disciplined parent.
Let him make his own decisions. Inasmuch as you make him obey your rules, he still need some gap to make decisions for his life. Give him chance to choose his friends, his career, hobbies and any other thing that is personal to him. You will only need to advice him on the implications of wrong decisions and guide him accordingly. Also take interest in what he likes. When you are satisfied with his behaviour, tell him he is doing fine and should keep it up, reward him if you can.
Respond. Don't react. By the time he starts coming close to you, he will open up to you to the extent of giving you information about his friends. If he tells you that his friend smokes secretly, do not react immediately by rebuking him of having bad friends, because if you do he will stop telling you about himself and his friends. Instead ask him what he feels about a teenager smoking. This will help you to know his opinion about smoking. If he defends his friend, you should tell him the dangers of smoking and how people view those who smoke. If he is against his friend's attitude, tell him is about time he look for better friends who will help him to achieve his aims in life. This way, you are building a better relationship with your son and he will love you for that.
