Sunday, June 28, 2015

How to Bring Out the Best in Your Children

All moms want to bring out the best in their children. This may seem like a difficult goal to achieve but in reality it's not. You simply need determination and motivation to be focused on your goal on a daily basis.

1. Support and celebrate the success of  your children. Children can succeed in their own little ways. It could be getting the highest quiz score in class or overcoming the fear of riding a bicycle. Children like to be acknowledged. They tend to work harder when they're praised.

2. Focus on your children's strengths. Children have individual strengths. Therefore, you must not compare them with each other. Point out their strengths and give them duties that will enhance those strengths. Sometimes, people don't see their own strengths. This will keep them from thinking negatively about themselves.

3. Listen to your children. Children always look for someone to listen to their stories and to their thoughts. It is best for the listener to be you instead of another person or a stranger for that matter. If you know their thoughts, you can correct any wrong notion which they might have acquired on their own. You will have the opportunity to re-align their minds towards positivity and  reaching their goals.

4. Provide support and encouragement. Do your children enjoy sports or playing musical instrument? If you can't enroll them to sports clinics or music classes, simply support them when they perform during community or school events. Encourage them to practice daily and to their best every time they perform.

5. Teach your children to maximize their potential. Children are much more creative, powerful, and talented than they think. They just need someone to tell them that and teach them how to take chances. As their parent, be their first supporter and adviser towards success. Share to them the things you did on your own in order to succeed when you were younger.

Sunday, June 21, 2015

Forgiveness 101: Things to Do and Not to Do

Forgiveness or to forgive is never easy. No matter how light the offense is, pain and bitterness are inevitable. This is why most people find it hard to forgive.

Forgiveness Do's

Resolve bitterness. Bitterness veils the complete perspective of truth. Bitterness in our hearts makes us see only the truth according to us. Thus, we fail to see the things we can do and the things that we should be accountable for. If we can't resolve bitterness, we'll count forgiveness as impossible.

Be honest. We must be honest with ourselves that we will need another person to speak to us the truth. This requires humility too.

Keep your mouth shut. In sharing your feelings and hurtful experience, you must be careful not to share them to just anyone. Choose a trustworthy loved one who could be your confidant.

Forgiveness Dont's

Don't force transformations. Although forgiveness is a matter of decision, we must not force our hearts to do so. Sometimes, we need more time in order to be less sensitive to the consequences that can transpire once we decide to forgive. The bitterness in our hearts will just grow deeper if we get hurt again.

Don't make important decisions in the heat of the circumstances. Do significant things when you're emotions are already stable. This will keep you from having regrets.

Don't burden anyone with your ill feelings. When we're hurt, we tend to look for someone who can serve as a sounding board. Not all people want to be a sounding board. Look for other ways to vent out your feelings and thoughts. Refrain from  putting burden on other people's shoulders as they also have own problems to mind.