Wednesday, November 18, 2015

Steps to Overcoming the Pain of Divorce

Many say that going through divorce is much more painful than enduring the death of a loved one. Feelings of fear, guilt and shame experienced by the divorcees and their children make the event even more painful. Do you find yourself in similar situation? Here are some tips that will help you survive the pains of divorce.

Avoid denial. Accept the loss. Face the reality of it and painful feelings that come with it. Pain is a natural phenomenon by which we know that's something is broken and that it needs to be fixed. Understand that experiencing pain is normal.

Realize that the pain is temporary. You must believe that this stage  will pass and that you will get free from the pain through a step-by-step process. If you're able to get over the pain in a healthy manner, a mature version of yourself will be born soon after.

Invest your pain wisely. Use the pain you feel to grow in different areas of your life. In fact, you can support and help other divorcees or their children to become better people while you're in the process of mending your broken heart.

Give yourself enough time to heal. Total healing from pain may take years but it will not take forever. Some divorcees recover sooner compared to others because they're more intentional in searching for ways by which they can improve their situation.

Forgive and let go of the past. Unforgiveness will keep you tied with the past. Decide to forgive your ex-partner and other people who have hurt you during the divorce process even though they didn't ask to be forgiven. Pick up the lessons the past taught you and forget about the pains that resulted from it. Keep your eyes fixed on the good things that will happen in the future.