Take responsibility. This is more than just telling everyone that you are responsible for everything. This involves not complaining about everything that comes your way. As the officer-in-charge in your life, you have the courage to take the correct choices in life and endure the consequences of your wrong decisions in the past.
Control your mind. How are your daily thoughts like? What are the things that you believe in? All these influence your identity and capabilities. Feed your mind with positive thoughts and you will be set to success in life. Your lifestyle will only improve when you're able to fix your thought life.
Respect yourself. Don't look down on yourself. Believe that you can achieve anything. Drop your judgments and support your own decisions. It will be easier for you to take actions if you think this way. Respecting yourself also includes presenting yourself to other people in a respectable manner. Don't give other people a valid reason to disrespect you. Act, communicate and dress yourself up in a respectable manner.
Make deliberate choices. What kind of person do you want to be next year? in five years? in ten years? The image of your future self in your mind is a product of your daily choices from this moment on. If you want control and power in your life, choose to do the right things today even though they could be very hard.